Rad Dad: Nick Grant
As a style writer for outlets like Complex, Well-Spent, and GQ, certified Cool Dad™ Nick Grant (@NicholasGrant) knows a thing or two about, well, being a Rad Dad (Nick actually has a regular column on Well-Spent where he rounds up the best clothes for ensuring that the birth of your child doesn't become the end of your style).
With stories ranging from the most stylish NBA teams to the ethically complicated world of fast fashion, Nick was an obvious choice for us here at Huckberry when it came time to interview someone on fatherhood and fashion for our Rad Dad series. We knew Nick had the head-to-toe style game on lock—what we didn't know was that he was ready to unpack some serious wisdom he'd gained since becoming dad to his little dude.
Read on to find out Nick’s totally-worth-it recent splurge purchase, his sage advice for other fathers, and why he unabashedly loves playing hide and seek.
Do you think your style has changed since becoming a dad?
Absolutely, but I think that also comes with maturity and sensibility. It’s more about comfortability than anything, but there is still that tinge of “I’m sorry, but I have to subtly stunt on you, at the very least” that I doubt I will ever shake. It just won’t be as deliberate because, you know, I’ve matured.
What’s something your son has introduced you to that you secretly (or not so secretly) enjoy?
Most people may start off with the whole “this is embarrassing, but…” but there is nothing embarrassing about my son introducing me to the cartoon show Teen Titans Go! Because that show is absolutely hilarious. My son and I could sit and watch it for hours. But... uh... we don’t because... uh... TV is bad…
While we're on that topic... Netflix recommendation?
God, I could go on for days. This may be too deep, but I don’t think I’ve ever been as emotional while watching something as I was while watching 13th. Truly heartbreaking and eye-opening.
What about podcasts—anything new you're into?
In The Dark. I’m on Season 2 now and count down the hours until the new episodes drop on Tuesdays. So good.
What advice can you give to other new dads?
“Don’t listen to anyone else’s advice because no two experiences are the same.” You can read all the books you want, but once you are in the moment, it all goes to shit and you just kind of have to go off instinct. It’ll become second nature, which is based on the individual’s capability to adapt. No matter what, I would say “you’ll be great, as long as you care enough to try.”
What’s one piece of wisdom you’d like to pass on to your son?
"Just be yourself and don’t let others dictate who you should be."
This is one I think about quite often, actually. It would probably be, "just be yourself and don’t let others dictate who you should be." Growing up, I had identity issues because of my mixed race and where I grew up. It took me quite some time to figure out who I was because I was constantly trying to fit into a mold others were trying to put me into. But I could only figure it out on my own over time, so I just hope it doesn’t take him as long.
What’s something you learned from your father that you’ll one day teach your son?
I don’t care if he excels at sports. I don’t care if he excels at anything (OK, that’s a stretch but follow me here.) As long as you work hard and try your best, that’s all I can ask for. And if it doesn’t work out, you can at least hang your hat on the fact that you tried.
What’s one thing your son has taught you about yourself?
That I don’t have as much patience as I once thought, but it’s a good thing because it constantly reminds me to work on it. He even tells me now, “dad, you need to be patient,” and while a knee-jerk reaction could be “what the hell?” it’s really a blessing in disguise.
"My patience is typically called out as one of my best features by co-workers and clients, so I really have to tip my hat to my son for that."
What’s something you do (and enjoy doing), now that you’re a father, that you never would have imagined doing?
Other than dancing, because we do that together more than anything, it’s playing hide and seek. If you think about it, it’s actually a pretty good way to see how your child’s brain is developing. Before, he would hide behind a thin plant and think he’s disguised. But as he’s matured, this little shit is finding the craziest little creases and crevices to hide and it truly amazes me. Now, it never lasts long because he gets scared if he’s in that spot for too long, so he’ll start making noises to help me find him, but nevertheless, it’s truly impressive.
What do you find is the biggest challenge in balancing business, family, and self-care?
I wouldn’t say it’s a challenge, but moreso something you have to continuing working to perfect is just finding and maintaining your inner-peace. If you aren’t at peace with yourself, your job, your family, everything is off balance. Doesn’t necessarily mean you need “me time” or to be alone, but you have to determine what you feel comfortable with in all aspects of your life and try to maintain it.
"And continue to challenge yourself to grow what you are able take on. It reverberates to those around you and they’ll feed off of it."
Recent splurge purchase that was totally worth it?
Gucci River Mules. I got a deal on ‘em, but I didn’t want to just go with another pair of regular Birkenstock Bostons. This was probably to the extreme, but I’ve already gotten an incredible amount of wear out of them and love their versatility.
What was the biggest surprise for you about becoming a dad?
When I was growing up, my mom would always get so sappy about little things that made her proud and I would always make fun of her about it. She would always say “wait until you’re a parent.” I can’t say she was wrong. Sometimes, I find myself watching him doing the most benign things and just thinking, “I can’t believe I helped create a human who could draw that tree or maybe it’s a spider no it’s definitely a dog” and just start tearing up. Now she rubs it in my face every damn chance she gets.
To keep up with Nick and all things fashion, follow him on twitter @NicholasGrant.